Added: 20:04 11th.Feb.2005
I was browsing web about news from Ukraine and found
this web site. Out of curiosity I read everything
there is and if I may offer female prospective on
marrying Ukrainian woman.
Actually, I AM Ukrainian woman married to American
man and this is a true storry. We didn`t meet thru
marriage agency but other than that we had it all.
One week at a time dating, 2 years of long distance
relationship, which includes painful immigration
process, and finally 5 years of marriage and a
beautiful little baby-girl.
Here is my oppinion (if I may):
1. Ukrainian women less money oriented than American
are but we do what financial security. We want to
have home to raise children, food to feed them,
clothes (Wal-Mart or Sears brand will do)to wear and
something for rainy day. Now how is this different
from what you, guys, want figure it out yourself.
2. Most Ukrainian women really looking for person
you can grow old with and still holding hands when
you walk in the park. Example: when I met my
husband, I had a nice well-paid job, financial
security. I travelled the world on business and
vacation and most important I didn't want to come to
America. I liked living in Ukraine. But you can't
pass one in a life time chance to live your life
with your soul mate. That's why I am here.
3. Ukrainian women are well-educated (most of them)
and probably 90% have high education which is not a
4 but 5 year University program.
4. Don't be afraid to contact beautiful lady. I
agree with Brett, beautiful ladies might be
intimidating, because you think she probably has a
lot of other offers. That's why poor beautiful lady
will end up a spinster when her ugly duckling
sisters will get married.
5. Most women in Ukraine can't drive. Encourage your
fiancée to get a driving course in Ukraine
especially if she doesn't speak English.
6. Please have in mind that these women have to
consider a lot to agree to marry you. If it's a big
change for you, it's much bigger change for them.
They have to start life from scratch: learn how to
speak (English), fit in new world, find new friends,
get familiar with new products. When I can to
America, I didn't consider half of jokes funny,
because I didn't have a background. So, brace
yourself, that there might be some transition period
which includes some tears (have some tissues handy).
Another thing, it might be difficult for her to find
a job(especially if she doesn't speak the language),
which for an active woman might be really upsetting.
Be patient, she will appreciate it and reward your
patience and understanding.
7. If you are interested in woman with child,
consider this. There will not going to be any
ex-husband in sight, no "who has child for Christmas
and who for Easter" and all that other good stuff.
Last thing: both me and my husband think that our
marriage is the best thing that ever happended to
us. We loved every minute of our long distance
dating. It was like "50 first dates", when we met
every 4 months. ("Nothing beats the first kiss")and
because of that we are stonger, we are better and 5
years later we are still in love. We found a lot
more things in common than we hoped for. Don`t let
distance separate you. We are not from different
planets we are "the same squirrel. We just grew up
on different side of a canyon" (it`s from "Fools
Don`t miss your chance.
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